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I’m not big on New Year’s resolutions. Which may sound ironic coming from a coach.  The reason is that a resolution is usually just a vaguely formed wish or idea, and is very rarely planned and clarified. And usually ends up creating guilt or self flagellation for not doing what was actually just a half-baked idea anyway. What our family does instead, is choose a word for the coming year that summarises the headspace with which we’d like to live the year.

Some of the words I’ve chosen over the past years have been words like ‘consolidation’, ‘fun’,’ focussed’ and ‘passion’. This year my word is ‘trust’. As a recovering control freak, this is an area that is often difficult for me. I like to know the outcome will be as I desire it before I’ve even started the process. I’m impatient. I often create additional work for myself because I check and double check things. I worry about things in the future – over which I have no control in the present. So, this year, I will keep in the foreground of my mind, my intention to trust. That everything will be as it will be.

What this thinking pattern does is keep us out of our present, always watching and planning and dreaming about the future. Now here’s the real irony. If we don’t live in the present, and plan in the present for the future, our future will never be what we want it to be.

And for a recovering control freak, that’s music to my ears. Because all we can control is our response to this moment, this situation. There is no way we can control our future. But we can certainly plan for it. What are you planning for this year ?

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